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5 Ways To Heal Your Heart When A Breakup Leaves You Broken

Are you wondering how to get over a breakup, heal your broken heart, and stop hurting so you can move on?

You’ve worked hard to get out of a relationship that wasn’t serving you.

But, are you feeling overwhelmed by emotion and the empty space that resulted from letting go of your love? Or were you walked out on so you’re struggling to understand why and you’re trying to get past it?

You are not alone

For as long as there are relationships, we all have to deal with heartbreak from someone we once loved (or still love).

But, fret not! Learning how to get over someone and move on is hard but not impossible. You may be heartbroken now, but soon, you’ll look back and realize you were better off without him.

Here are 5 ways to get over a breakup and heal your broken heart.

1. Take stock

One of the first things I tell all of my clients — when they have to walk away from someone they love — is to take stock of the reasons that their relationship wasn’t working.

Make a list of all the reasons why you needed to walk away from that person or the things that you knew weren’t working and the reasons why you might have been broken up with.

When we spend time with someone, we are regularly exposed to those things that remind us why we need to walk away.

However, breaking up and getting away from that person can tend to make those things recede into our memory. They get replaced at the forefront of our minds with the good things, the good times, and all the things that we loved about that person.

And, with the good things at the front of our minds, we are vulnerable to returning to the relationship that is causing us pain.

So, make a list of everything that you can think of that caused the breakup. Keep that list close and refer to it when you are missing him. And keep the list in case he comes back, begging for forgiveness.

You left this relationship for a reason. Keep that reason in mind daily going forward. He left this relationship for a reason — make him work to get you back. A list will help you with both.

2. Go cold turkey

There is nothing more tempting than stalking your lost love when you miss him.

Unfortunately, these days there are so many ways to keep tabs on your lost love — social media has made it all so easy. And keeping tabs on a lost love makes it really hard to let go and move on.

It doesn’t seem like that big of a deal to take a quick peek at your lost love’s feed, but you know, as well as I do, that there is a chance you could see something on there that you just don’t want to see.

Perhaps, he’s out there having fun without you, doing something that you used to do together, or even doing it with someone else. And seeing any or all of those things could send you into a tailspin.

So, when you’re working on getting over someone, eliminate all ties to him on social media. Block him on your phone. Don’t ask your mutual friends about what he is doing. Tell yourself that he has moved to Mars and that you will never see him again.

You will be glad you did.

3. Make yourself a priority

OK, so you are single again and you suddenly find yourself with a lot of free time. And you might also find yourself craving a lot of ice cream.

But, now is not the time to sit around, watching Netflix and eating ice cream. While those things might be fun in the moment, in the long run, they will only make you feel worse.

The best thing that you can do for yourself right now is to exercise and take care of yourself.

When you are going through a hard time, the number one thing that can make you feel better are the endorphins that are created through exercise. Those chemicals will actually make you feel very different from the sad and lonely person you might feel like right now.

Furthermore, if you get enough sleep and eat well, your body will feel strong and it will help with your healing.

And, best of all, taking care of yourself will make you look hot, way hotter than you might look if you only indulged in Netflix and ice cream. And looking good is an excellent way to win your break up. Imagine the look on his face when he sees you next!

So, again, this is the time to take care of yourself. Don’t let yourself fall apart. Pulling yourself back together will be so much more difficult if you do.

4. Do something big

Another thing to do with all of that free time is to start doing something that you have always wanted to do. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for your empty space — do something with it!

A client of mine broke up with a man she loved desperately but who couldn’t commit to her. She was devastated. So, I asked her to name a few things that she had always wanted to do and one of the things that she came up with was writing.

In this day and age, it is quite possible to write and get what you write out to the masses without going through the process of publishing a book or getting a magazine to publish your article. You can simply write a blog and post it to a variety of platforms available online.

My client started writing about her broken heart, what happened, her insights about what she could have done differently, and the way she felt with him gone from her life. It was hard work for her, emotionally, but soon she started to get a following.

Other women who were going through the same things appreciated her written words and started commenting on her articles. As a result, she built a small community of women who supported each other through the rough times.

What is it that you have always wanted to do? Pick one thing and start doing it. You have the time. Life is short. Don’t waste it!

5. Reconnect with old friends and make new ones

For many of us, relationships mean that we disconnected with people who might previously have been a big part of our lives. None of us do it intentionally or with malice, but it does happen. And those friends are still out there.

Make an effort to reach out to those friends, the friends who knew you ‘before’. They will be happy to have you back and happy to support you through this time.

Also, now is a great time to make new friends. I have a client who is using Bumble BFF, an app for women to connect with other women, to find some new friends, ones who are single and want to get out and do things that she does. She has connected with some amazing women in just a few weeks.

People are a great way to get you through a tough time. And you have lots of people. Reach out and find them again.

Knowing how to deal with a breakup and stop hurting is an essential way to get past it.

Having a plan is always the best course of action and I believe that it’s much better than T.V., junk food, and hours spent dreading the future.

So, now that you have read this article, get off the couch, get a notebook, and make a list of all of the reasons that you broke up with your guy. Keep it close.

Block your guy on your phone and on every social media platform that you are connected on. Get out there and exercise. Do something that you’ve always wanted to do.

Reconnect with old friends. Fill your calendar with things that will make you happy and disconnect from the guy you had to let go.

I know it doesn’t seem possible but life does not end with a breakup. Rather, it begins again. Getting over it ending will help you move forward. But, it is up to you to take advantage of this new beginning and make the most of your life.

You can do it! It will be worth it! I promise!

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