At least three times a week I get an email from women asking me for “relationship advice” about the married man they’re dating (i.e., having an affair with). These “other women” are all frustrated because the guy they’re cheating with hasn’t left his wife, and they want some form of commitment from him.
If you’re a woman who’s currently having sex with a married man, this going to be a virtual slap in the face — and it’s one you need.
He’s never going to leave his wife for you, his mistress.
And when you take a closer look at the reasons why men cheat and the benefits they gain through infidelity, you’ll quickly see that I’m right.
Here are three reasons you’re wasting your life waiting for a married man to end his marriage, because no, he’ll never leave his wife for you.
1. He has everything he needs
Why would he leave his wife and kids?
He gets to have amazing sex with you with no commitment at all, and then he gets to go home and play with his kids. It’s the ideal situation for a guy.
He has the wife who feeds him, cleans up after him, and looks after his children, and then he has his lover taking care of him in other ways he needs.
He has two girlfriends and everything done for him. He’s enjoying it!
2. Divorce is too painful
Think about the repercussions of divorce. There’s the hassle of lawyers, the fighting, the upset of the children, the financial burden, and a host of other problems divorce throws up.
Why would he put himself and his family through that if he doesn’t have to? You seem happy to see him when he can fit you in, so why would he leave his wife?
3. He’d have left her already
If this guy loved you more than anything, then even with the pain of divorce and the upset of leaving his family, he’d have left her by now. If he wanted to be with you, and if he loved you like you think he does, he’d have already left his family.;
Think about it. He hasn’t left his wife because he doesn’t want to. It’s as simple as that.
Now that you know he’ll never leave his wife, what should you do about it?
Very simply, you can give him an ultimatum.
What he’s doing isn’t fair to you, his wife, or his children, and he needs to make up his mind.
Gather as much strength as you can, look him in the face, and tell him this:
“I love you. I want to be with you. But I’m not going to do this anymore. I’m not going to see you again until you move out of your home. I want to come to your new apartment. I don’t want to keep meeting at my place or in hotels. The only way you’ll see me again is if you text me or call me with the address of your new apartment. I want proof you’ve left your wife.”
Give him this ultimatum and you’ll know where you stand. Are you going to be his partner, or will you only ever be “the other woman”?
You see, the “other woman” is never going to succeed. She is never going to get the man.
All she’s going to do is waste her life waiting for a man who will never be hers while missing the chance to find a man who’s devoted only to her. I know women who have done this for four, five, or even six years.
Look at your own emotional needs, wants, and desires.
Are you dating a married man because you like to live on the edge? Is it because you don’t want commitment yourself? Maybe you’re scared of men hurting you?
A lot of women date married men because they’re so afraid of getting out there and meeting men. They have relationships with married guys because deep down, they know it’s never going to go anywhere. They don’t need to leave themselves 100 percent vulnerable.
Other women just love the chase. They love the drama of trying to win a man who isn’t theirs.
You need to figure out who you are.
My advice is to stop being the other woman. It’s not fair anyone involved, and you deserve a man of your own!